Thursday, 19 June 2014

The scars that make us beautiful!

I know about accidents. I have seen accidents. The fatal ones, the tear-guts and all likes; I once had an accident, but none of these accidents have made impact on me like the ones that left horrible scars.  The aftermath, the recuperation, the denial, the resignation, all form the visible and invisible scars that mar our beauty.  I know of scars that never heal, I know of scars that heal faster than the “scarer”, and I also know of scars that heal completely without medication.

Everyone has a scar.
Everyone carries scar.
Everyone deals with their scars differently.

Tell me what I dont know; that the scars left by a pain can be easily forgotten? One thing I know is “it is dangerous to abandon one’s self to the luxury of grief: It deprives one of courage and even of the wish for recovery”.

Eryca Freemantle had no idea of what destiny or the over 200 scars that mar her face will do to her life, after her near death accident. At that time physicians, psychologist, parents, friends, colleagues, all saw a scarred face and body that is not acceptable in the modelling profession. She saw the like at first until she learnt to fight the horrors of the scars that would have tarnished her beauty.  Left with loss of hair, a near amputation of her left leg, undergone five fibroid operations, with a 3 years agonizing and resented solitude, after being told she will never walk again,and worst of all over 200 scars to her face. 

 With sheer deetrmination, she was motivated to learn about corrective make-up techniques and applications to camouflage facial blemishes and scarring. Accepting she could not pursue modelling, she decided to become a make-up artist. Her story is an amazing and inspirational one. Her positive attitude towards life encouraged her determination to proceed and be successful. It was her motivation that gave her the courage to embrace her beauty at a time of such low self-esteem. She had to make and design her own make-up, to disguise her scarred face because of the inavailability of makeup in the UK for black women, much less black women with imperfections. So she got some mud from the garden, mixed it with water and put it on her face. That was her first ever experience with makeup. It didn’t look good, but it made her feel better because it covered the scars for a little while.

To so many people, courage in the face of disaster is a no good, yet this inspiring woman used the powder of hope to smoothen the imperfection of her scars. She understood how to deal with the roots of her scars and ultimately learnt to use her tweezers of elegance to pluck free the inner scars that may be more visible that the outer scars. Her self realization mirrored the knowledge that guided her perfections of her scars, she knew without doubts that once she couldn’t feel it, then she wouldn’t see it and yes, we wouldn’t see it.

Today, Eryca is an acclaimed make-up artist and industry expert. She has researched the make-up artist industry intensely, travelled the globe, looking at trends and predictions. Through her research she was able to identify that she had something unique and very much in demand to offer, slightly more than the average make up artist. She has specialist industry knowledge combined with traumatic experiences, which is why she is known as a “survivor.” She is an award-winning celebrity and international make-up artist, industry intelligence, consultant, educator, author, corrective make-up specialist, trend setter, key note and motivational speaker. Eryca motivates, encourages, unites and emotionally lifts people of all ages and genders. She has a glamorous approach to fashion, photography, beauty and corrective make-up. Eryca Freemantle is a Lifestyle Guru, an award-winning, celebrity whose positive attitude towards life encouraged her determination to proceed and be successful.

 Her life is a lesson for those whose palms still hold lines they can trace; if you hold out on the invitation to create your own beauty techniques in covering your scars, chances are that you will miss the compliments of life and the success story. A little dab of your astringent may not be enough, the discovery of your foundation may seems futile, but you can learn to loose yourself in the beauty of your powder, and let the right application of all corrective measures give you the best chances at covering your scars.

Who knows about your scars, who sees your fears, who hears the near trembling voice everytime you approach the podium, who wants a list of your past failures, who cares about your limitations. No one decides if you get the seat at the high table. Don’t let anyone play dragon with your scars, cover them the best you could and be the best you can.  Our scars are not the ones the world see, they are not the ones we know, but the ones we acknowledge. The visibility is not the problem, but the acceptance is the disease.
This is not to say we must indulge in corrective measures to cover a fool’s dungeon but to solve the inner impediments that are causing the outside breakouts.
It’s hard. It’s near impossible. It’s overwhelming.

 But you need your own “awesomeness”. Most times we have the solutions in our hands, but we throw away the mantle of our own success because we are scarred, we have been scarred or because of some scars.

Eryca Freemantle says "every woman has the right to simple make-up and fitness regime that enhances her natural beauty. All women are beautiful."

I know that everyone has a scar.
Everyone carries scar.
You need a technique to work out your scars, believe me.

Salute to this wonderful and courageous woman, Eryca Freemantle, as she joins our list of the “SASSY, SMART and SUCCESSFUL”.

It’s indeed an honour to write and share her story with you.

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